Lately, I’ve been thinking about the beliefs we have around healing. Our culture perpetuates the idea that healing from trauma has to take years…
And lots of hard work!
Maybe that’s true sometimes and for some people. But does it always have to be that way?
What if it’s possible that healing our wounds of the past is easier than we think?
I see clients make massive progress in a single session or two. This is not due to some great or special wisdom unique to me, as a facilitator. I know, because I have colleagues who see the same amazing results.
There are many ways that healing old wounds can be easier and more fun than we expect.
One way…
Is to change the belief that it needs to be hard!
If we expect things to be hard, then we set ourselves up…
We don’t allow anything that falls short of a long, difficult process to be “real.”
Here is a technique I use when an old pattern reveals itself:
Viewing events as gifts
I make myself the hero of the event. Rather than focusing on the hurt, the anger, or whatever emotions are connected to the issue, I see the ways it’s helped me grow.
This allows me to see it as a positive in my life. Something that’s helped me (even if the person or people involved don’t deserve any credit for my positive outcomes.)
I ask myself questions like:
How did I feel at the time?
How have I grown or changed for the better since feeling that way?
What strengths have I acquired?
Am I more understanding or compassionate towards others who are going through something similar?
Have I learned things to avoid or do differently?
Who I am, now, since surviving this?
I get playful and tell myself a hero’s tale of the journey and how I have used the events for the greater good.
What story can you retell from your past? Are there ways you can focus on the positive changes it’s created for you rather than the difficulties?